Emotional Recovery

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Emotional Recovery

Emotional Recovery

Emotional Recovery New Heart

Strong recovery requires emotional healing and emotional recovery.

Addiction is a common way to sooth life’s injuries.  Hurt people, hurt people.  With all of this hurt comes an emotional toll.  Shame, guilt, resentment, depression, regret, sadness, and anger are just a few of the emotions we can suffer.  The injuries and suffering will act like an open door for addiction to take hold.  Strong recovery requires emotional healing and emotional recovery.  This will close the door and deny addiction further access.
At Leadershop we believe you will have more positive feelings when you are building a life you find meaningful.  Where do you get the time for building a life when yours is so overwhelming and chaotic?  Margin.  We help you create margin through recovery.  Emotional recovery helps us understand past injuries, habits, and new skills for making different decisions.  Here are a few tips to accelerate your emotional recovery:

Emotional Triage

Triage is a process used to treat the most critical life threatening injuries first in an effort to save lives.  You should be using emotional triage to develop a Strong Recovery.  Identify the emotional injuries you have and their stage of healing.  Those injuries that are still bleeding need immediate attention.  Stop the bleeding.  Do not ruminate on what is wrong, how bad things are going, or how bad things are going to turn out.  You will get more of what you focus on.  Take control and stop the injury so the bleeding doesn’t make things worse.
  • List your injuries and the people associated with each one
  • Note the risk for relapse associated with each one
  • Make a plan to reduce risk of relapse for each injury
  • Choose which life threatening injury will be addressed first, second, and third.

Focus on Healthy Habits

Injuries recover faster with first aid.  When you focus on healthy habits of emotional first aid you can treat an emotional injury and facilitate your strong recovery.

Identify the specific ways you were hurt


Identify how you got hurt whether it was abuse, betrayal, or disappointment.  Then, identify the resulting bitterness, resentment, or toxicity that has continued to hurt you.  Identify how these have limited and shaped your future.  Recognizing how you have been hurt is the first step toward a strong emotional recovery.

Read and understand scripture


When we are hurt our mind can justify all kinds of notions.  These ideas may or may not be true, good, or useful.  We need to develop the mind of Christ.  We need to think more like Jesus and the only way to do this is to read what God has said and seek to understand it.  1 Peter 1:3 says “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.”  This is one example of what God wants to do for us and it can be found by reading the bible.

Ask Jesus for a new heart


Jesus redeems and restores that which is broken.  Ezekiel 36:26 says “And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.”  Emotional injury causes us to develop a stony, calloused and stubborn heart.  Ask Jesus for a new one.

Be Hopeful


There is hope available to us in many ways.  The more we train ourselves to see hope, the more hope we will have to draw upon in our time of need.  Look for ways you are being made new in your thoughts, desires, motivations, and emotions.

Connect with people who love you


There are many things in recovery that need to be celebrated.  There are so many private victories that come from inner battles.  Don’t make the mistake of thinking you can fight these things alone.  Connect with people who love you and ask them for prayer that supports your healing and growth.  Meet with them regularly and share your life with them.

Focus on purpose and meaning


Addiction loves to be the only purpose or meaning in life.  This leaves us empty.  But life is filled with meaning and purpose if we can only get a better perspective of it.  Seek a clarity about your experiences as part of your emotional recovery.  Life experiences will teach you about the world, your self, and eventually God’s character.  God’s messengers all had life experiences that enabled them to go and tell others about the Living God and what he can do.

Practice forgiveness


Forgiveness is a healing choice you can make.  At first, we want to withdraw or get even.  If this dark desire doesn’t eat us alive we come to see the value in forgiveness.  As you forgive others, you will be forgiven (Matthew 6:14).  Seek forgiveness for your failures and shortcomings so that you will have it to give.

Healthy habits can facilitate emotional first aid and emotional recovery.  In time, this will lead to resilience and strength.    When a bone has been broken it heals stronger at the weak point. Emotional recovery is similar.  Addiction uses our injury for easy access.  When we work on healthy habits and healing our emotional injuries we become stronger at our weak points.  Access is denied.  Emotional recovery closes the door on addiction.

Get some help

In other blogs we have routinely stated the importance of teamwork in recovery.  If you are focusing on your emotional recovery this season it’s no different.  Don’t go it alone.  Get some help.  Creating a strong recovery takes a team of people.  At Leadershop we help people win the fight of their lives.
Author: Todd Davis, PhD, MFT, LADC

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