Strong recovery requires emotional healing and emotional recovery.
- List your injuries and the people associated with each one
- Note the risk for relapse associated with each one
- Make a plan to reduce risk of relapse for each injury
- Choose which life threatening injury will be addressed first, second, and third.
Focus on Healthy Habits
Identify the specific ways you were hurt
Identify how you got hurt whether it was abuse, betrayal, or disappointment. Then, identify the resulting bitterness, resentment, or toxicity that has continued to hurt you. Identify how these have limited and shaped your future. Recognizing how you have been hurt is the first step toward a strong emotional recovery.
Read and understand scripture
When we are hurt our mind can justify all kinds of notions. These ideas may or may not be true, good, or useful. We need to develop the mind of Christ. We need to think more like Jesus and the only way to do this is to read what God has said and seek to understand it. 1 Peter 1:3 says “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.” This is one example of what God wants to do for us and it can be found by reading the bible.
Ask Jesus for a new heart
Jesus redeems and restores that which is broken. Ezekiel 36:26 says “And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.” Emotional injury causes us to develop a stony, calloused and stubborn heart. Ask Jesus for a new one.
There is hope available to us in many ways. The more we train ourselves to see hope, the more hope we will have to draw upon in our time of need. Look for ways you are being made new in your thoughts, desires, motivations, and emotions.
Connect with people who love you
There are many things in recovery that need to be celebrated. There are so many private victories that come from inner battles. Don’t make the mistake of thinking you can fight these things alone. Connect with people who love you and ask them for prayer that supports your healing and growth. Meet with them regularly and share your life with them.
Focus on purpose and meaning
Addiction loves to be the only purpose or meaning in life. This leaves us empty. But life is filled with meaning and purpose if we can only get a better perspective of it. Seek a clarity about your experiences as part of your emotional recovery. Life experiences will teach you about the world, your self, and eventually God’s character. God’s messengers all had life experiences that enabled them to go and tell others about the Living God and what he can do.
Forgiveness is a healing choice you can make. At first, we want to withdraw or get even. If this dark desire doesn’t eat us alive we come to see the value in forgiveness. As you forgive others, you will be forgiven (Matthew 6:14). Seek forgiveness for your failures and shortcomings so that you will have it to give.