Defining Family Identity

Defining Family Identity “Todd, I want to invite your son to play for me on the All Star Team.” That is how the phone call started and it sounded great.  I was proud of my son and his dedication, sacrifice, and performance.  I was excited to see him play with other similarly focused and competitive…

Pass ’em

It was about this time of year, 25 years ago. Some friends and I were driving home from a movie. There was a car in front of us and my friends shouted “pass ‘em”. The road was dangerous and my resistance was weak. They shouted again, “pass ‘em or you’re not a man”. Just this…

Getting Started

Getting Started Making our own pleasure a god that must be served is not a good or liberating god.  Instead focus on discipline to say “yes” or “no” selectively and appropriately as it serves a higher purpose and calling.  Focus on saying “no” to personal pleasure in order to create time, opportunity, and energy for…

Say “Yes” or “No”

Most men never get the opportunity to spend the summer with their kids.  I am so blessed to be in this challenging position.  Structure and activity has been good for all of us but sometimes it seems to go too far.  Engagement in activities, whether it’s going to the pool, archery, drawing pictures, seeking evidence…

Toxic Exposure

Toxic Exposure I spent the last 15 years working for a local law enforcement agency. I was hired to provide counseling services to criminal offenders inside the jail. This environment is extremely toxic. It gets all over you and it changes you. It contaminates you with evil. Offenders would lie, cheat, steal, and victimize others….